Unforgiveness or reconciliation – it is a choice!

We live in a society and at a time when instant gratification is our norm.  Anything that does not fit within that norm will end up on social me, on every platform that our names are attached to.  Either by one party or both. We are Christians, right? So is there anything new under the sun that Jesus has not addressed? So I am mad at someone. I want to give them both barrels.  They are my FB or Twitter friend. I think that I have two options. Post a tirade on my profile page or send them a tirade in PM.  Well, not really it is just better to send them a condemnation e-mail telling them that thy are going to hell if they don’t realize what a horrible person they are.  And of course end the comment with. I will be praying for you to see what a horrible person you are. What? It doesn’t go like that? Ok, how about this scenario. I will just unfriend them. How dare they talk to me like that? Or lately, how dare they talk about my political candidate like that? Really?  Is my vertical relationship with God so flimsy that I am willing to stop loving my neighbor because of something that they said to me? Let’s see what God’s word tells us to do. My short version of this is “Take the High Road!” Here is what the inerrant word of God says.

(Matthew 18:15-20 (KJV).

15 Moreover, if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.

Father in Heaven are you kidding me? Oh no! That cannot be correct! I am not supposed to find all of my other friends in church, work, social media, family etc., and tell them all about “that person who dared to talk to me like that?But they hurt me, Father! Every time that this has happened to me you have told me to go to my brother and talk to them about it Father. When I go with an attitude of reconciliation, love, and restoration everything works out such beautiful. At first I know that the initial pain lingers for a bit. The Holy Spirit nudges me and I have to pray for you to take it away.  But the relationship is restored and I thank you so much for restoration Father.  Every time that I take the “High Road” the problem is solved and the relationship is restored.  Sometimes even better than it was before.

16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican. 18 Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. 19 Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven 20 For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them. (Matthew 18:15-20 (KJV).

Father the temptation is there to take people who are going to agree with me and “circle the wagons” around the individual who has hurt me.  My soul aches and I may think that in this scenario at least other people will see what the other person is like.  I am not perfect so long, long ago when I took the stance and thought that there is always victory in numbers it may the conflict even worse. When I applied this Scripture Your way Father, it was with a gentleness of spirit and an attitude of trying to resolve the situation and restore my relationship with the other person. It always worked out just fine, and when it did not, I had to make a decision about when to go to the next step or take the high road and pray for the hurt to end, but love the person even if they will not love me. Because the pain I will feel in my soul will not go away unless I forgive the person I have to forgive them, Father.  Sometimes I have to pray continually about it before “taking the high road inside of me became my current reality.” 

Taking the high road and forgiving the person does not mean that I rehearse all the evils in my head.  It is not to say that my self-talk about that person remains negative.  Oh, Holy Spirit!! It does not mean that I join in with all the other individuals who have been hurt by the same person and great a “Hurt by so and so group!” Father, it means that I have laid it at the foot of the cross.  Oh yes, now and then the enemy will bring back to hurt.  Then I have to cry out to you Father and asks you to control my thoughts and my mind until it never returns as a negative view, but as an object lesson – when I look at what I said or did that may have caused the problem to occur in the first place. I thank you for the leading of the Holy Spirit that creates that in me. 

Oh, I know that it does not happen right away and it may take some serious time before the total pain goes away. But every single time that I finally lay it at the foot of the cross Father – the blood of Jesus flows over it and me and makes that memory as white as snow. I Praise you and glorify you for that Father because that is not a Joyce thing. That is not something that I could do in the flesh.  The memory remains, but the searing pain is not attached to it. 

Letting go of hurts – finally letting go and allowing the Holy Spirit to smooth out that section in my mind that is wrinkled, blackened, and seered by hurt and pain releases me to open up and have unguarded relationships with other. But more importantly Father, it opens the channels of communication between You and me because the sin of unforgiveness is no longer blocking my prayers.Father your word declares, “14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you” Matthew 6:14 KJV. Thank you for reminding me of this each time that a hurt occurs.

Father when I have an unforgiving spirit it prevents me from being reached by the sweetness of the Holy Spirit as He flows through my souls and makes those thought and attitude a blooming garden in my mind where a desert was created by ugliness and unforgiveness. When I choose to release anger and unforgiveness, and I am in agreement with my brothers and sisters then we “are gathered together in Your name, [and you are in] the midst of [us to bless our efforts, to reconcile our relationships. To restore our family bond through the Holy Spirit.] (Matthew 18:15-20 (KJV). Thank you for your word, Father. It always has a solution for every problem that we face each day.  There really isn’t “anything new under the sun” in 2017 that is not addressed by your Holy Word.  Forgiveness gives us peace!

 

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