Proverbs Chapter 18

Proverbs 18 #Wisdom #Folly #TheTongue #Speaklife #Knowledge #understanding

Relationships With People

22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour of the LORD.  God never planned for His people to live alone as adults or to liver an adulterous relationship, or to live a life that is synonymous to that of being married but outside of the parameters of marriage. I know that this is once again a counterculture statement. I am just presenting Scripture as the Bible shows it. A man should value his wife. never take her for granted, and never think that the “grass is going to be greener on the other side!” Thus, jumping from one marriage to another, and sometimes many others looking for the perfect mate. Mark 10:9 (KJV) states, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Think twice before coming between the members of a marriage.

23 The poor useth intreaties; but the rich answereth roughly. A poor or humble person will speak softly or gently when conflict arises. However, generally, a rich person will present behavior that appears to have an entitlement attitude towards respect. They will speak roughly to others because they feel that they are above them.

24 A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. If we are unfriendly, we will not have any friends. We have addressed the latter part of this statement before.

Our Communications with them

13 He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him. Only an arrogant person presents a solution to a problem before hearing about the issue!

17 He that is first in his own cause seemeth just; but his neighbour cometh and searcheth him.  Always get both sides of the story before making a decision. Still get the facts before siding with anyone regardless of their position in life. Have you ever been in the house when the door bursts open with 2 children panting out of breath? One is always trying to outrun the other to be the first person to speak. Why? They believe that the person who speaks first will be heard and understood. Always fact check before accepting anything that anyone insists is the truth!

18 The lot causeth contentions to cease, and parteth between the mighty. In the Old Testament when a decision could not be made they would cast a “lot” to make the decision instead of allowing the people to argue over a resolution.  Slick states “

casting lotsCasting lots was a method used by the Jews of the Old Testament and by the Christian disciples before Pentecost to determine the will of God. Lots could be sticks with markings, stones with symbols, etc., which were thrown into a small area and then the result was interpreted. “The lot is cast into the lap, but its every decision is from the LORD,” (Prov. 16:33). There are many instances of casting lots in the Bible.

19 A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle. Hurt feelings can cause division, separation, and confusion among family members. There are actually families who at such odds with each other that they have not talked to and or with each other for decades. The separation between these family members is so unbridgeable that they are like the walls of Jericho that protected the city against invaders. This is counterproductive and against God’s will. When we operate through the power of the Holy Spirit, we forgive as God has forgiven us.

21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Speak life into one’s own life and into the life of others. We can use our tongue as “a tree of life” like (Proverbs 15:4) or as peacemakers  “Blessed are the peacemakers” (Matthew 5:9). Either scenario will speak joy and life rather than misery and spiritual death.


2 A fool hath no delight in understanding, but that his heart may discover itself. Once again, we are addressing the behavior of a foolish person. They do not have a desire for knowledge, truth, and or understanding. A fool is only interested in what resides in their mind. They will not seek counsel. They will listen to counsel either.

Verses 6 and 7 A fool’s lips enter into contention, and his mouth calleth for strokes. This person loves to create confusion, arguments and finally will demand “strokes” or a fight to resolve the conflict that they started themselves. 7 A fool’s mouth is his destruction, and his lips are the snare of his soul.

Relationship Skills


Our Relationship With the Godhead

10 The name of the LORD is a strong tower: the righteous runneth into it, and is safe.  Stating that the name of the Lord is a strong tower is just the same as Psalms 118: My power and my strength come from the Lord,   and he has saved me.  From the tents of God’s people come shouts of victory: [because]    “The Lord is powerful! 16 With his mighty arm, the Lord wins victories! The Lord is powerful!” We have no refuge, no power, and no strength outside of “The Lord!’

14 The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity, but a wounded spirit who can bear? This verse is so much like speaking within one’s spirit that they are healed. Your spirit remains in a state of positive belief that it is God’s will to heal and sustain you. “By His stripes, we are healed!” But without faith, we will remain in a state of depression. Our illness will bring us to the brink of emotional turmoil when we have no hope!


Words Lead Actions, and They Have Consequences

4 The words of a man’s mouth are as deep waters, and the wellspring of wisdom as a flowing brook. From the heart, the mouth will speak.” A person with a ‘good’ heart will speak wisely, and their speech flows like a gentle brook. Their thoughts are, as we would say today, “deep!”

8 The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly. In previous chapters, we have talked about the end result of gossip.  It does not change.  Have you noticed that the 7 things God hates are repeated multiple times in this wisdom book? Our Heavenly Father is a great teacher. Teacher it, repeat it and teach it again until they get it. That is what a good educator does.


1 Through desire a man, having separated himself, seeketh and intermeddleth with all wisdom. Have you ever met a person who believes that they know everything and do not need to listen to anyone? Well, for us to have wisdom, we must seek it. Our need for it must be as emergent as our need for food and water.  Wisdom comes only from above. Yes, it is possible for an unchurched person to be wise. The knowledge that they have in their subject is still acquired because they sought after it.

Verses 2 and 3 speak about the same attitude When the wicked cometh, then cometh also contempt, and with ignominy reproach.  Webster’s Dictionary defines “ignominy” as “deep personal humiliation and disgrace 2: disgraceful or dishonorable conduct, quality, or action.” The wicked will cause “personal humiliation for others. Their speech and actions will be dishonorable. They will eventually bring disgrace to themselves and or their positions.  It will not be immediately evident to everyone around them. If we are not operating under God’s Spirit of ‘wisdom’ instead of man’s we will think that an ignominious person is wise and should be heeded to.  Here is the hint. Do their words or actions cause “deep personal humiliation and disgrace 2: [are their actions] disgraceful or dishonorable conduct, quality, or action.” Does anyone anywhere consider their actions to be any of the above? Then they are not righteous! Verse 2 Before destruction the heart of man is haughty, and before honour is humility.

5 It is not good to accept the person of the wicked, to overthrow the righteous in judgment. Never, ever agrees with the ramblings of a wicked person when they are speaking against The Lords anointed people. The enemy will use that tactic. God will never use an evil person to correct His children.

9 He also that is slothful in his work is brother to him that is a great waster. A lazy person will also be someone who wastes their time and are famous for being a procrastinator.

Strong’s Concordance: Here is the definition of the original Greek word for slothful.

nóthros: sluggish, slothful

Original Word: νωθρός, ά, όν
Part of Speech: Adjective
Transliteration: nóthros
Phonetic Spelling: (no-thros’)
Short Definition: dull, sluggish
Definition: blunt, dull, hence spiritually; sluggish, remiss, slack.

HELPS Word-studies

3576 nōthrós – properly, slow, sluggish (LS); (figuratively) dull because slothful; lazy, inert, listless (lackadaisical).

11 The rich man’s wealth is his strong city, and as a high wall in his own conceit. A rich person will rely on their wealth to garner a defense. They will not rely on God as their strong tower or their shield and defense. They will believe that money can buy them protection.

16 A man’s gift maketh room for him, and bringeth him before great men. This not talking about a bribe. It is talking about giving something to someone as an act of gratefulness for their hospitality or their kindness when you needed it most. It could just be a card. A thank you note, or a word of thanks is like a gift to someone who has received hospitality that they did not expect to receive.

20 A man’s belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; and with the increase of his lips shall he be filled. We will reap what our mouth has sown. If our words have caused hurt, we will probably receive hurt in kind. If our words have been a blessing to others, we will also receive a benefit. 


15 The heart of the prudent getteth knowledge; and the ear of the wise seeketh knowledge. A wise person will also gain knowledge, and they will “listen” intently to receive knowledge, They will not do what they have always done expecting a different result.

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