Psalms Chapter 45: The Wedding Song: Verses 10-17

Psalms Chapter 45:10-17 #TheKingofKings #TheBride #TheKing #TheMarriage #WarriorKing 

(Unless otherwise cited this devotional is from the King James Version-Psalms 47 mainly because it is public domain.) But read this Psalm in the NIV for clarity of the Genre.)

The Splendor of the Bride

  • “10 Hearken, O daughter, and consider, and incline thine ear; forget also thine own people, and thy father’s house; 11So shall the king greatly desire thy beauty: for he is thy Lord; and worship thou him.

It appears that this “bride” is not an Israelite because she is admonished to “forget also thine own people” (Verse 10). This may appear to be unfair to “women;” however Genesis 2:24 ESV dictates that when a man becomes marries he should “T. . . . leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” As Christians, we are reminded here of about Christ’s statement to his followers in  Luke 14:26-33  (ESV) 

26 “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. 27 Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple. 28 For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? 29 Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, 30 saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’ 31 Or what king, going out to encounter another king in war, will not sit down first and deliberate whether he is able with ten thousand to meet him who comes against him with twenty thousand? 32 And if not, while the other is yet a great way off, he sends a delegation and asks for terms of peace. 33 So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.” 

When one becomes married, they are forming a new alliance, a new family, and gain a new status. The bride in verse 10 is doing just that.

I must be willing to give up all of my earthly possessions, titles, accolades to be in step with the will of God. Jesus/God demands absolute loyalty to Him and Him alone. We cannot have one foot in one culture and another in God’s culture, or kingdom, because “for he is [my] Lord; and [I must] worship him.”

  • 12 And the daughter of Tyre shall be there with a gift; even the rich among the people shall intreat thy favour.
  • 13 The king’s daughter is all glorious within: her clothing is of wrought gold.

Verse 13. The receives gifts from even the rich. God’s people are blessed and highly favored. At some point, the blessings of being favored by strangers to begin to formulate in the lives of Christians.  Verse 13 changes the addresses to the bride and speaks about her beauty. As Christians, we have the possibility of demonstrating such beauty in our relationship with God that everyone should be asking why are we different. 

We are the beacon of light that should guide the lost to the acceptance of the call of the Holy Spirit on their lives. When all they see is people griping, moaning, groaning, complaining, and being ugly to each other, they will NOT want to be a part of that “group.” Why? They are already miserable in their current lifestyle. We must hide His word in our hearts, or we cannot abide in His presence. Sin will permeate our lives.

  • 14 She shall be brought unto the king in raiment of needlework: the virgins her companions that follow her shall be brought unto thee.
  • 15 With gladness and rejoicing shall they be brought: they shall enter into the king’s palace.

Verse 14 alludes to the fact that the bride is accompanied by “virgins/bridesmaids” and she is brought to her husband’s home in the “full regalia.”  Not only do they accompany her to her husband’s home, but they also do it with much joy, pomp, and circumstance. This is a celebration of the “act” of marriage as ordained by God. Although this is the opulent marriage of “The King” [We do not know which marriage this is. The Psalm does not reference a specific wife.] the integrity of a godly king and a moral wife. It also celebrates marriage, but note the splendor and solemnity of the ceremony itself. Thus, the poem extols marriage itself, whether of a royal couple or not. 

  • 16 Instead of thy fathers shall be thy children, whom thou mayest make princes in all the earth.
  • 17 I will make thy name to be remembered in all generations: therefore shall the people praise thee for ever and ever.

The balance between addressing the bride and the king is shown in the rhythmic pattern of who is being addressed. The wife, and then the husband/king, and forth of the addresses. Verses 16-17 affirm the Davidic Covenant.

The Davidic Covenant

2 Samuel 7:11-16 (ESV)

11 from the time that I appointed judges over my people Israel. And I will give you rest from all your enemies. Moreover, the Lord declares to you that the Lord will make you a house. 12 When your days are fulfilled and you lie down with your fathers, I will raise up your offspring after you, who shall come from your body, and I will establish his kingdom. 13 He shall build a house for my name, and I will establish the throne of his kingdom forever. 14 I will be to him a father, and he shall be to me a son. When he commits iniquity, I will discipline him with the rod of men, with the stripes of the sons of men, 15 but my steadfast love will not depart from him, as I took it from Saul, whom I put away from before you. 16 And your house and your kingdom shall be made sure forever before me. Your throne shall be established forever.’”

The Davidic reign is a mirror of God’s 

The Davidic kingship reflects God’s measureless kingship over the universe. It also foresees the reign of Jesus Christ our Messiah and The King of Kings and Lord of Lord. Why? Jesus is the groom who is waiting for his bride [the Church.]

Ephesians 5:25-32 ESV

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

Hebrews 1:8– 9 ESV as cited in the LXX

  • But of the Son he says, “Your throne, O God, is forever and ever, the scepter of uprightness is the scepter of your kingdom.
  • You have loved righteousness and hated wickedness; therefore God, your God, has anointed you with the oil of gladness beyond your companions.”

Church, are you ready for our bridegroom to come?

 

References

Cayce, Ken. 2018. “Books of the Bible.”  http://www.bible-studys.org/About%20Me.html. Accessed October 14, 2018.

Longman, Tremper, III. 2014. Psalms: An Introduction and Commentary. Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press. Accessed October 14, 2018. ProQuest Ebook Central.

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR SPOUSE’S FRIEND BETRAYS THEM By Drs. Les and Leslie Parrot

#betrayal #relationships #whattodo

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When we get married, we don’t often think much about how each of our respective circle of friends will continue to change and evolve over time. That’s because we’re focused on our spouse–and rightly so. But the truth is, friendships will come and go like they always have.

Betrayal is an incredibly painful experience, and it’s something all of us experience at different times, in different relationships, throughout our lives. So if your spouse has been betrayed by a friend, how do you support them through it?

TRUST YOUR SPOUSE’S JUDGMENT

Sometimes, a betrayal can blindside us. But other times, it’s possible to see what’s coming before it happens. If your spouse begins to voice suspicion that a friend of theirs might have betrayed them (or be in the process), trust their assessment of the situation.

You might not be ready to see what your spouse sees, especially if this person is your friend, too. As Christians, we tend to give others the benefit of the doubt–and that’s not a bad thing. But if your spouse points out red flags, it’s wise to pause and pay attention. And, if what you see is still in conflict with your spouse’s point of view, gently discuss it with them.

BE THERE TO LISTEN

If your spouse is reeling from a painful experience with a friend, they may want to talk about it–a lot. Be willing to be there for them and to listen; sometimes we have to talk about things in order to get clarity on something we’re experiencing, and your spouse may need just that.

Beyond listening, be willing to offer your spouse whatever kind of comfort they need during this time. Maybe it’s space, or perhaps you need to share a fun activity together to get your minds off what’s happening. Either way, your friendship will be invaluable while your spouse navigates the situation.

DON’T APPROACH THE FRIEND

When our spouse’s friends hurt them, it hurts us, too. Maybe we’ve cultivated our own friendship with that person over the years, merely because of their connection to our spouse. You might feel angry at this friend’s betrayal, but it’s best not to approach them.

If you confront your spouse’s friend in anger, you risk making the situation worse. Even in the most volatile of situations, it’s possible for friends to work out their own problems. But once other people become involved, the situation can easily deteriorate or become more complicated than it was before.

DON’T SAY “I TOLD YOU SO”

Sometimes, our spouses have friends we may not be a fan of (and this can go both ways). If, for some reason, you didn’t care for the person who has betrayed your spouse, it won’t help to tell your husband or wife, “I told you so.” In fact, chances are they realize their misstep in trusting this person. Don’t rub it in.

What you two need to do now is focus on the future. How will you prevent something like this from happening again? Are there red flags you could look for in future friends? A trusted, professional counselor may be able to help you both learn more about how to choose healthy friendships in the future.

PREPARE FOR A GRIEVING PROCESS

Losing a friend is one of the hardest things we can go through in our life. And the grieving process can begin long before a confrontation ever occurs. Understand that your spouse is grieving the loss of this friendship, and you might feel that same grief as well.

Try not to dictate to your spouse how he or she should go about letting this friendship go. In some cases, it may be necessary to speak up. But most of the time, your spouse will work through this in their own time. The most important thing is to be there for them while they do.

Has your spouse been betrayed by a friend?

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