Are you grieving?

Comfort, comfort my people, says your God.  (Isa. 40:1 NIV)

Are you experiencing loss? Grieving for a loved one, or the loss of a relationship, is an emotional hardship from which some people never recover.  The grief process has five stages:

  1. Denial
  2. Anger
  3. Bargaining
  4. Depression
  5. Acceptance [1]

You will experience all of these stages, but you will not experience them alone.  The Lord will be right there with you.  In the darkness of your loss, and the emptiness of your grief, remember that Jesus lost one of his closest friends, Lazarus.  Therefore, he understands your emotional pain.  Lazarus’ sisters were distressed.  Martha told Jesus,   “if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But I know that even now God will give you whatever you ask.” (John 11:21-2). She believed in the Lord’s power to prevent death, but she was going to experience his compassion during their grief.  Hod the Father experienced grief also.  The day that His one and only son died on the cross, his son said, “Jesus cried out in a loud voice, “Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?” (which means “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” (Matthew 27:46 ).  It is said that, 

Because Jesus was quoting the well-known Psalm 22, there could have been little doubt in the minds of those who were standing there as to what Jesus was saying. They had been taunting Him with His claim to be God’s Son (v. 43), and an appeal for divine help would have been expected. Their saying, “This man is calling for Elijah,” was not conjecture about what He said but was simply an extension of their cruel, cynical mockery.  In this unique and strange miracle, Jesus was crying out in anguish because of the separation He now experienced from His heavenly Father for the first and only time in all of eternity. It is the only time of which we have record that Jesus did not address God as Father. Because the Son had taken sin upon Himself, the Father turned His back. That mystery is so great and imponderable that it is not surprising that Martin Luther is said to have gone into seclusion for a long time trying to understand it and came away as confused as when he began. In some way and by some means, in the secrets of divine sovereignty and omnipotence, the God-Man was separated from God for a brief time at Calvary, as the furious wrath of the Father was poured out on the sinless Son, who in matchless grace became sin for those who believe in Him.[2]

God the Father was separated from his son because of our sins.  The grief he experienced was so intense that he turned his back on him.  Sin created the separation and loss for God the Father.  But for us it is the temporary absence of our loved ones from our lives that is so gut wrenching.

Grieving is not something that one can speed along.  There will come times after your loved one has passed on to their eternal rest that you will experience a depth of loss and emptiness that you never thought was possible.  It is at this time that you must go to the Lord for him to wrap you in his arms of compassion and mercy.  He grieves with you.  Just call on him and he will ease the pain.

Jesus loves you and understands your grief. Allow him to help you through this period of loss.  He will absorb the intense pain and walk you through the process.  He is always there, even when you cannot see or feel His presence.


[1]Christina Hibbert, “5 Stages of Grief,” Dr Christina Hibbert, para.1, accessed August 05, 2015,

[2] John McArthur, “Why Did Jesus Cry, “My God, My God, Why Have You Forsaken Me?”” Grace To You, June 19, 2014, Section 4, accessed August 05, 2015,

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